Before becoming co-founder of Happity, Emily set up MummyLinks as a safe place for mums to meet up for local playdates.
Emily (co-founder of Happity) talks about feeling lonely as a new mum
Emily found motherhood a lot harder than how she imagined it to be. She says:
When I became a mum I pictured life to be sunny picnics in the park and catching up with friends over coffee whilst baby slept in my arms. That happened occasionally (or all the time if you look at my social media at the time!), but most of the time it was a lot tougher…
Emily’s experience of PND
Emily found herself at her loneliest during maternity leave – home alone with a small baby. She says:
“In particular, I found maternity leave lonely at times. I suffered with Post-Natal-Depression which made it worse. But even without that it is tough at times. It’s a big change from going out to work most days, having a social life, and running your own schedule.
I’d find it particularly tough if a mum friends (completely understandably!) cancelled last minute due to their baby being sick or similar. I’d Whatsapp my other mum friends frantically trying to find somebody else to meet with but they were busy already most of the time. This made me feel even more lonely.
I kept thinking, if I’m lonely at home then there must be tons of other mums in exactly the same position. Surely it’s not just me? Right…? (Ok maybe it is and the rest of you are all out at a big party having fun together?)
And I don’t think mums should be lonely. We needn’t be as there are enough of us around! But in this age of high house prices and great technology, we often find ourselves far from friends and family when we start having babies. I heard the other day that 92% of new mums now struggle with loneliness at some point. I think that’s awful.
I’m a strong believer that it takes a village to raise a child (and keep a mum happy!) That’s why I set up MummyLinks.
I am so excited to now be bringing the MummyLinks community of playdates and mental health support together with Happity because classes and activities for you and your little one are another great way to meet like-minded parents and beat loneliness”