Becoming a mum is a daunting time for anyone, especially if you’re the first one of your friends to have a baby, or if your friends all have older children. Having mummy friends around to keep you company through sleepless nights is invaluable, but, for some of us meeting new people can be (almost) as daunting as having a child.
Loneliness is also reported to effect 9 in 10 mums, and as it can lead to maternal mental health issues such as post-natal depression it’s important to build a good local support network around you
Here are some ways to make friends with other mums.
Go to your local toddler group
Toddler groups are a great way to meet mums, in your local area. They give you a chance to offload or ask questions to people in a similar situation to you, and your child gets to socialise too! Sometimes there is a cost associated with classes, but you can often find toddler groups at local churches that are either free or only a small charge – normally including coffee and cake!
Go to your local library
Some libraries have story time sessions or sing-a-longs for children. Not only are these a good way to meet other parents, but they’re also a great way to introduce your children to books and libraries from a very young age. They are generally free too!
Join a local Facebook Group
A lot of local areas now have their own Facebook groups where people share local news and events. You might find something to go to, or you might start chatting to new people in comments and discussions. There might even be someone to virtually keep you company during night time feeds.
Join Happity (formerly MummyLinks)
If you’re reading this then there’s a good chance that you have already heard of Happity. But if you haven’t, Happity allows you to find and book local activities or arrange safe playdates with other parents in your area. It’s a great resource for last minute fun – when someone cancels as their kid is sick, or you hadn’t made plans yet.
Be the first one to say hi
This one can sound pretty scary, but someone has to make the first move to become friends. Start smiling or saying hello to any mums you meet in the park or at a coffee shop. You might not click, and that’s okay, but at least you’ll know you tried. I’ve had a few strange looks, but many great chats this way!
What are your tips for making mum friends?