From NICU To Home: How Do I Make The Transition?

From NICU To Home: How Do I Make The Transition?

Lisa (Lullabies) Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) and Paediatric Sleep Coach shares her tips for parents transitioning from the NICU to home. Read on as she shares her tips and experiences.

However long (or short) your NICU journey has been, don’t underestimate how much it can affect your new little family. There is often a huge range of emotions that comes with leaving the safety bubble of the NICU and going home back into the ‘real’ world. For days, weeks, or sometimes even months, you’ve stood by and watched others care for your baby. You’ve (hopefully) been able to get more involved the more well your baby has become. The nurses are telling you you’re ready, you’ve got this, and you don’t need them anymore.

No matter the length of time your family has spent in the NICU, it’s incredibly easy to become ‘institutionalised’. A word that we no longer use as much anymore, but the right word for what happens to so many parents who walk through the doors into the secret world of the neonatal unit. Leaving the safety net and adjusting to life at home can feel overwhelming. So, while I can’t promise to cover everything, I have some advice to help ease the transition back into the real world.

Everything is going to be okay. I understand why you might be nervous, but rest assured, you’ve got this!

Establish A Support Network

Surround yourself with a strong support system consisting of family, friends, and healthcare professionals. Lean on them for emotional support, practical assistance, and guidance. Remember, you’re not alone. 

No One Wants To See You Struggling

Meal trains have become incredibly popular in other countries. It’s where your support network gets together and arranges a meal a day to be prepared and delivered to you so that it’s one less thing you must think about. Apply this to everything, not just meals.

Outsource What You Can

If a meal train isn’t possible, then try meal vouchers or pre-made meals. Ignore the mess. A bit of clutter won’t hurt.  When your support network asks you what you need, be honest and tell them the truth about what the little things you need help with. You might need the floor mopped. Maybe you need the dishwasher emptied. You need someone to pick up your other child from school. Maybe you need someone to watch the baby whilst YOU pick up your other child from school. Everyone needs different things, and people don’t know if you don’t tell them.

Open Communication

Keep open communication with your baby’s healthcare team, including doctors, nurses, and specialists. Discuss any concerns or questions you have about your baby’s health, feeding, and development. They can provide valuable insights, reassurance, and guidance during your transition to home period. Most neonatal units have a home visit provision for babies born under a certain weight/gestation. For those that don’t have this, then a phone call is never a problem if you need some reassurance. 

At Hospital Discharge

Once your baby has been discharged from the NICU, your health visiting/community midwifery team (age of baby dependent) should be notified about the discharge, and they will usually check in with you. If you haven’t received any communication from them within a few days, then give them a call, sometimes referrals get lost in the system. You can never have too many people to ask questions of!

Prepare Prepare Prepare!

Get your house ready for your baby’s arrival by ensuring it’s safe and comfortable for the whole family. Set up a cosy nursery or area beside your bed with a cot, changing station, and feeding area. Keep essential supplies, such as nappies, wipes, and feeding equipment, close to hand. Make sure that you’ve got a water bottle, a book or your phone close to hand for when the inevitable nap trapped happens!

A lady smiles as she looks at and strokes a baby in an incubator

Focus On Bonding And Attachment

Spend quality time bonding with your baby through skin-to-skin contact, cuddling, and baby-wearing. Skin-to-skin contact not only promotes bonding but also helps regulate your baby’s body temperature, heart rate, and breathing. I know you already know this from your time in NICU, but it’s a good reminder that it doesn’t have to stop just because you’re home.

Try Not To Stress About Feeding

Whether you’re breastfeeding, formula feeding, or a combination of both, establish a feeding routine that works for you and your baby. Consult with a lactation consultant if you are struggling with breastfeeding. Feeding times are great bonding opportunities for you and your baby. You focus on feeding, and let the health visitor focus on everything else.

It WILL Be Different When You Get Home

That baby that fed every 4 hours like clockwork and slept in between will most likely no longer eat and sleep by the clock. Home is different. There are noises, smells, lights, baby classes, visitors, and so many things that weren’t in the neonatal unit. When babies enter the real world rather than the controlled environment of the neonatal unit, everything changes. If you are worried about your baby’s sleep, have a chat with a sleep coach. But allow yourself (and your baby!) time to adjust before implementing any strict routines, especially if they’re breastfeeding.

Set Boundaries

When you get home, it’s natural to want to wrap your baby up in cotton wool and protect them from the outside world. It’s also natural to want to show them off to everyone who wants to see them and give them all those cosies that they’ve missed out on. My point here is that however you feel about visitors, it’s ok. This is your baby. If you want to put rules in place, then do it. If you don’t, then that’s fine too. It’s up to you. This is your family, you do you.

Finally- Give Yourself Some Grace

Remember that this is a huge transition. Everything you’ve known in your parenting life so far has changed. It’s ok to ask for help. It’s ok not to need any help. And it’s ok to realise that that lovely nappy changing area that you’ve set up is in completely the wrong place and doesn’t work where it is. So, change it. Very little is set in stone, and from here on out, it’s up to you to parent your way.

A newborn baby laying on a bed in an incubator

As you transition to life outside the NICU, remember that every family is different. Find what works best for you, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. You’ve already shown so much strength and resilience during your time in the NICU, now it’s time to enjoy life at home with your baby.

About Lisa – Lullabies

My name is Lisa, and I am a Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) and Paediatric Sleep Coach based in Dubai and serving families worldwide. I believe in empowering parents with the knowledge and tools to achieve restorative sleep and successful breastfeeding.

I offer comprehensive guidance, assistance, and troubleshooting across all aspects of infant feeding, from establishing breastfeeding, to exclusive pumping to weaning.

With nearly two decades of experience as a paediatric and neonatal nurse, I have worked in diverse healthcare settings worldwide, including UK, USA, Saudi Arabia, Qatar, and now Dubai, which has equipped me with a wealth of knowledge in different cultures. Throughout my career, my focus has always been on supporting parents, imparting knowledge, and empowering them to care for the most important thing in their life – their child.

Transitioning into the roles of a sleep coach and lactation consultant has allowed me to continue this important work while dedicating the time and attention necessary to truly make a difference. I am grateful to have found my passion in this field, and I am deeply fulfilled by the positive impact it has on the lives of the families I am fortunate to work with. Read more on my website, Instagram or TikTok.

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6 Tips For Handling Feeling Overwhelmed As A New Parent

6 Tips For Handling Feeling Overwhelmed As A New Parent

Feeling overwhelmed as a new parent? We are joined by Nikki, The Scottish Soul Sister. Nikki is a coach and speaker who supports maternal mental health with simple, sustainable self-care. Read on as she shares her tips for new parents.

First Of All, A Huge CONGRATULATIONS

Whether you are a birth Mother, a Father, a foster parent, an adoptive parent, a step-parent, parenthood is an exciting new step in your journey!

It can be hard to verbalise the emotions that come along with looking after this new addition to the family and it can be a rollercoaster.

I know, I am on the parenting train too. My son is now six years old and I still find myself in awe of how much love I feel for this little dude (which at times has him squirming away from me as I try to snuggle him and sniff his wee head like I did when he was a baby). Navigating this new chapter, whilst amazing, can throw a bit of overwhelm into the mix.

Expectations of ourselves as new parents (along with expectations of others and the roles they play) will shift the dynamics within your household. There’s less focus on yourself as you immerse fully into caring for your new baby. And let’s not even go there about the huge amounts of ways you can compare yourself with others online. It can all contribute to feeling overwhelmed as a new parent.

A close up of cute baby toes

So, How Do You Manage Feeling Overwhelmed As A New Parent?

Don’t worry, I’ve got you. No sugar coating. No scaremongering! Just some tried and tested tips and tools to accompany you on your parenting journey.

All of these are based on the really cool concept that we each have six human needs: certainty, variety, significance, love and connection, growth and contribution.

Being aware of these helps to build a foundation that supports our wellbeing not only on a daily basis but particularly during a big life change such as becoming a parent.

So here we go: Here are the main pillars to help manage that bubbling overwhelmed feeling as a new parent.

1. Certainty

Get organised. Together as a family create a schedule every week to manage the day-to-day tasks. Discussing the expectations of who does what and exploring if external resources can be utilised for a while, to assist with perhaps cleaning and/or cooking?

Create meal plans or order some if feasible and clear some of that brain space that gets taken up with the daily question ‘What do you want for dinner?’ Arrgghhhh!

2. Variety

Being a new parent can feel a little isolating and often comes with other significant changes such as perhaps no longer working or shifts in your routines. Look at this as an opportunity to explore new routines, meet new people perhaps by attending some group activities in the area.

Be aware of falling into the trap of ‘bouncing back’ to your pre-baby life, instead consider opening your arms and welcoming a little evolving instead.

3. Significance

As I said above, if you are no longer working or taking art in previous activities you may feel less significant. Friends and family may have shifted some of their attention from you to the cutie-patootie you have introduced into their lives.

Aim to ensure you feel heard and seen by keeping communication open with your loved ones. If this feels challenging then reach out to a coach, therapist or counsellor to have a safe space to share how you are feeling (IMHO, we need to normalise having these people in our lives the way we do hairdressers, doctors and dentists).

A mum feeds her baby, sitting on a bed

4. Love And Connection

As a new parent you will often read about ‘date night’ and maintaining connections with your partner and whilst I agree with this I would like to suggest that, as well as focusing on loving and connecting with others, you love and connect with yourself.

Engaging in a little personal development and making sure your days are peppered with the things that bring you energy and joy will assist in you having the capacity to share yourself with others.

This goes for dads too! All you couples out there must remember this is not a competition about who does the most, who is the most tired or any of the other sneaky little narratives that can wiggle their way in. You guys are a team.

5. Growth

As you busy yourself looking after your new gang member, please be aware of stimulating your own brain.

Being a parent is emotionally and physically challenging but not so much academically. It can be easy to be so focused on meeting the needs of your baby that you no longer read, listen to music or podcasts you enjoy, study or challenge your brain. But it is a great idea for you to do it. Even if it is for 10 minutes a day, use that grey matter!

6. Contribution

This one you pretty much have in the bag. You are raising another human. Contributing to mankind: job done!

However, should you feel this need is not being met by all means go ahead and do some volunteering, donate to something worthy or even share a skillset with someone (if you are a whizz on social media for example, give a mate a few pointers for their small business).

A women hold hands with a toddler as they walk on a beach

Nikki – The Scottish Soul Sister

So, my lovely new friend, I hope that this helps you to understand that just like a jigsaw takes lots of small pieces to create a full picture. This list is not exhaustive. There are so many ways in which to navigate feelings of overwhelm. We too require lots of small pieces to meet our own needs as we parent. This is not about removing the challenges, it is about having a toolkit we can rely on to help us navigate those times.

Be kind to yourself, you do not need to resist feeling those emotions, go with it, we are so often bombarded with statements like ‘just think positively’ and ‘be grateful for what you have’ that we are diminishing the fact that all of our emotions are telling us something, instead of being fearful about them, get curious about them and you may realise that you simply have a need that is not being met and needs a little boost.

Nikki, The Scottish Soul Sister, is a Coach and Speaker supporting Maternal Mental Health with Simple, Sustainable Self-care. Read more tips on her website.

A photo of Nikki, Scottish Soul Sister, our guest expert who wrote this blog

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“My Baby Cries Every Time I Put Her Down!” 8 Things To Help Ease Separation Anxiety

What does separation anxiety look like in your baby or toddler (and what can you do about it)?

It is hard to see your little one upset, and you might be uncomfortable leaving your baby with someone else while they are crying. We’ve been there, and know the struggle! If you are the main care giver, your little one will be very used to being close to you. For some babies, from around 6 -7 months (although this can vary a great deal) you may see they are starting to show signs of separation anxiety. This is nothing to worry about, and is a very normal and expected part of their development. It shows they have a very strong bond to you which is healthy, but knowing this does not always make it any easier when you have a crying baby.

Let’s look at some signs of separation anxiety and what we, as mums ourselves, have tried.

What Does Separation Anxiety Look Like In A Baby?

Some babies become clingy or unsettled when their main care giver leaves them with another person. Or if they think they are being left with someone, they may not be happy about being cuddled by someone else. If you are visiting a relative’s house together, it could be that they get agitated thinking they are going to be left even when they are not. Your little one may cry, be fussy or act fearful, these are all signs of separation anxiety.

What Does Separation Anxiety Look Like In Toddlers?

Some babies grow out of separation anxiety by the time they are one or two years old, but for some this will be a lot earlier or later. Even then there may still be the occasional sign they are not happy about you leaving. The behaviour of an anxious toddler will be similar to that of a baby, with them possibly clinging to you or crying.

Is It OK To Leave A Crying Toddler?

Your baby or toddler will be fine at their childcare setting, or with your friend or relative who is caring for them today. It is hard, but it is good to put on a brave face yourself and tell your little one it is ok and you will be back later. Even if they are still crying when you leave them, know they will be ok and you can check with the nursery staff/ your relative later for an update if that makes you feel better. Don’t let your little one’s tears delay you leaving, a drawn out goodbye is harder than a quick one!

A baby cries as they are cuddled on a bed

Can Separation Anxiety Be Fixed?

There are some things we have tried, to not necessarily fix, but ease separation anxiety in your family. These 8 tips may be worth a try if you are currently dealing with Separation Anxiety in your household.

1. Start With Short Amounts Of Time Away

This can start as early as when they are tiny babies, if you play games like Peekaboo, they will see that you disappear but always come back. If possible, when you leave them at childcare or with a relative for the first time, make this an hour or two so they get used to being away from you, knowing that you will come back when you say you will.

2. Don’t Sneak Away

Once your baby is old enough to know that you are going, it is best to tell them you are going but they are going to have fun at nursery/ with Grandma etc.

3. But Also Don’t Drag Out Your Exit

Don’t go too far the other way and stay too long after it is clear you are leaving. This may make your baby think you might change your mind, or that where they are being left is not safe. If you confidently leave them, they will see you trust those they are with, so in the end they will trust them too.

4. Put On A Happy Face

Even if you are feeling anxious yourself, this can be tricky, but smile and say goodbye showing you are confident they will be ok without you for a little while.

5. Say When You Are Coming Back

Even if they are too young to understand, get in the habit of telling them when you will be back. Say you will be back after lunch, or after nap time, to give them an idea of what will happen.

6. Make Sure Your Little One Is Fed And Has Had A Nap

Everything is harder when you are tired and hungry. Your little one will find it a lot harder being in a new place or with different people if they need a snack.

7. Leave Them With A Favourite Toy

Give them something familiar like a toy they love, or even their special jumper, something that is important to them to give them a sense of comfort.

8. Know They Will Be Ok, But It Is Still Fine To Check In

Leaving your child is an important part of their development and will grow their independence as they get older. Know they will be fine at their childcare setting or with your relative. Still, at first you may want to phone the nursery later to ask them how your little one is doing, or text your relative for an update. But don’t try to speak to your baby until you are back to collect them in case it confuses them.

What To Do About Separation Anxiety At Bedtime?

It can be hard when your baby shows signs of separation anxiety at night, but remember that this is a phase that will pass. Your baby might cry when they wake up in the night and find you are not there, or be nervous about going to bed. It is good to have a bedtime routine, so they know what to expect. Things like bath time, pyjamas, story or songs before a kiss and cuddle goodnight means they will understand that now it is time to go to sleep.

If they do wake up crying for you, it is ok to go and reassure them that you are not far away. Some parents stroke and hug their baby without picking them up, giving them a chance to nod off again in their cot. Or if it works better for you, pick them up for a cuddle. They will learn that it is ok for them to be in their room alone as you are nearby.

A toddler looks thoughtfully at the camera as she is cuddled

Separation Anxiety In Your Baby And Toddler – Expert Advice

We have been through these experiences as mums ourselves, but we are not healthcare professionals. If you have any particular concerns or want more advice, your Health Visitor can help. You should be able to contact your local Health Visitor Team by email or phone to talk to them, and maybe get an appointment if you need to.

You can also read this NHS’s guide on separation anxiety in babies and children.

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Trying To Induce Labour Naturally? 13 Things Real Mums Have Tried!

Are There Ways to Induce Labour Yourself Naturally?

When you are heavily pregnant and your due date approaches – or has passed – sometimes you want to try and get things started yourself.

What Triggers Labour To Start?

Usually the main trigger is you baby’s readiness to leave the womb. They have grown enough, and have enough organ function to be ready for the outside world. Hormones are also involved- the hormone oxytocin can trigger contractions that starts labour. You can find out more about the different stages of labour on the NHS website.

What Are 3 signs That Labour Is Approaching?

There are a few signs that labour has started. Some signs that labour has started are:

  • Your waters breaking
  • The mucus plug comes away (this would have been in your cervix during pregnancy)
  • Contractions beginning (or a regular “tightening feeling”)

The NHS has more details about this.

What Have Other Mums Tried?

We asked Team Happity and the Happity Community what they tried to encourage their little one to make an appearance – read on to see what they have tried!

Please note: the following ideas are drawn from our community of parents and staff at Happity, and in most cases are not clinically proven. If you are pregnant and overdue please make sure you’re checking in regularly with your midwife and/or doctor.

Spicy Food

If you enjoy a curry, this is a great one to try! A great excuse to have your favourite takeaway.

Bouncing On An Exercise/Birthing Ball

Helen from Team Happity says: “When it got to a few days before my due date, I started bouncing on my exercise ball in front of the TV…It was good exercise if nothing else! Lyra then appeared two days after my due date. Although I can’t tell if the bouncing helped, I’d like to think it did!”

A pregnant lady smiles as she sits on an exercise ball

Pumping

We have some in our Happity community that swear by nipple stimulation, to release oxytocin, and bring on natural labour. At least you might get a bit of colostrum which will come in handy for later!

Eating Dates

Lisa from Team Happity says: “I tried the dates method even though I HATE them. I got through about a quarter of one before deciding it wasn’t worth it – they were then in the back of the cupboard for about five years…”

Curb Walking

As well as pounding the pavements with long walks to induce labour, some mums have said they have tried “curb walking” – walking with one foot on the kerb, and the other in the road. The uneven walking pattern can apparently encourages the baby further down into the pelvis. A safer alternative for this is walking along the bottom step of your stairs at home, or have one high-heeled shoe on one foot and the other barefoot to give the same sensation. Although be careful to walk slowly and maybe lean on a wall/ furniture while you do this. Plus then you will avoid funny looks from the neighbours!

…Everything!

Alex from Team Happity shares her story of everything that she tried!

“Oh my gosh, you name it…. I tried it.
Willow was two weeks late and showing no sign of making her grand entrance. We tried a sweep, did not work. Because of covid, I really wanted to avoid an induction so I tried everything suggested.
I ate a madras two nights in a row… did not work.
I then ate a vindaloo (worth noting I do not enjoy super spicy food)… did not work.
I read somewhere than there are some enzymes in pineapple that help induce labour, I blended and drank a whole pineapple twice… did not work. (I also have not been able to eat pineapple since, it really put me off😂)

I drank loads of raspberry leaf tea as recommended by someone… did not work.
Me and my partner also tried ‘couples way’ of inducing labour (if you know what I mean haha)… did not work!
I bounced and bounced and bounced on my ball…. did not work!
I walked for hours and hours to let gravity do its thing… did not work!

Safe to say nothing worked and she had to be induced properly by the hospital 😂Even then she was stubborn and it took two types of inductions to get the show on the road!”

Herbs and spices are in bowls on a table, with some cinnamon sticks and star anise on the side.

Quickfire Ideas

  • Gentle exercise
  • Acupuncture/acupressure
  • Eating dates
  • Herbal remedies (best to check with your midwife first though)
  • Aromatherapy
  • Blowing up balloons!

See What Works For You!

These are all things that we have tried, with varying levels of success. While there are no proven ways to naturally induce labour, as long as it is safe for you and baby then see what works for you! Talk to your midwife if you have any specific questions or any extra medical needs. You can also read what the NHS says about induction of labour.

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5 Tips for Calm And Happy Naps For Your Baby 

5 Tips for Calm And Happy Naps For Your Baby 

Baby naps – the thing that can really make or break our day!

For many, naps felt easier in the newborn days. Lots of cuddles, frequently sleeping but as we know this lovely newborn bubble can change so quickly. 

Whether we love them or dislike them, baby naps are here for the longer term and really are an important part of our baby’s development and sleep needs. So we might as well make these as easy and as stress free as possible, right?

We’re joined by Jade Zammit from Beyond The Stars who is here to offer her expert advice and tips when it comes to naps for your baby.

Some of us thrive on routines and timings, where as some may love a more “go-with-the-flow” approach. For some it can be quite overwhelming!

There is no right or wrong here – it’s what works best for you and your baby. And I’m going to share my top tips with you in how to find that balance and fully optimise your day sleep to support great nights too. 

1. The Environment

Babies don’t actually need to nap in the dark! We don’t produce melatonin in the day, so it isn’t necessary. However – for some babies they are very easily stimulated and struggle to wind down in a brighter environment, so it may be easier for them to nap in a darkened room to allow them to wind down and be ready for sleep! It can also help mimic their bedtime routine and sleep cues too.

The same can be said for noise – for some babies they can sleep anywhere, and noise has no impact. For others, they can be easily roused and so a quiet environment may be the key. If you are out and about or are in a noisier environment,  some white noise in there with them can help mask this. 

2. Understanding Sleep Cycles

Baby’s sleep cycles are roughly between 30-45 minutes. They transition into deeper sleep after the first 10 minutes and start to enter lighter phases of sleep after 30 minutes. It can take time for them to knit these cycles together, but there are some important key tips here!

From the age of 4 months (you know that giant development leap they take at this stage?) is where they start to realise if they wake somewhere different from where they fall asleep.  If their sleep association in where they fall asleep is strong, often when they stir into lighter sleep phases in a different position, this can be enough to wake them fully out of the nap.
Understanding these sleep cycles can be key. For example, if little one falls asleep in the car and you want to transfer to the cot – make sure it is between the 10-20 minutes into sleep or the chances are they’ll probably wake!

3. Find YOUR Baby’s Ideal Timings!

If we Google “sleep schedules” you may be faced with really generic advice. And not all routines work for every child of that age. The key is finding the ideal timings for YOUR little one. We want that balance of where they are ready for sleep, without being under-tired or overtired!

Keep a sleep diary – whether this be on an app, or a good old-fashioned bit of pen and paper. Identify what timings give them the best nap. Find what wake windows work well for them. 

Sleep is rarely linear, and their sleep pressure is forever changing. Start on smaller wake windows and work up to find their ideal settle time. And when things start to change in their day or night sleep, this will help you see the patterns and where the tweaks may be needed especially if a transition to drop a nap is near!

4. A Balance Of Wake Windows, Sleep Cues & Routine Timings

Honestly, there needs to be a balance of all of these. Baby naps may not always go to plan, and we don’t want to be left feeling lost every day or in the dark deep hole of nap maths!

Sleep cues – are important – as once they show these signs we have a very short window of time before overtiredness hits! But some babies don’t show sleepy cues – so they can’t always be relied upon.

Wake Windows & Timings – wake windows are important to ensure we get their sleep pressure right. Too early will bring a nap fight, as will the nap being too late. When little ones are too far stretched in timings, overtiredness takes over and their upset grows too. Also, having some structure helps bring consistency to your days and nights. 

5. The Settle

Is your settle approach consistent with how they are settled at night? Or are you finding yourself nap trapped? Whilst many mums love the snuggles, for some it brings a feeling of overwhelm and it’s ok to feel this too. Often little ones get to a stage where they also start resisting the rocking but unsure how to sleep on their own, bringing a huge nap fight.

Making changes to sleep rhythms are easier done at night when they are much more ready to sleep. You may want to work on sleep association changes at night first, for a few days, before changing the baby naps so that they don’t fight that transition in the day. 

Jade Zammit – Beyond The Stars

I hope this helps in your focus areas when it comes to baby naps. Think of these things individually and set yourself a plan to fully get the naps where you’d like them to be, and as calm as can be! When all of these come together, you have a recipe for calm and consistent naps.

I know this is easier said than done – if you want further support you can reach out to me through the linked website below anytime.

Jade is a mum of two, and with a roller coaster of sleep challenges behind her and extreme sleep deprivation she decided she wanted to support other families in this, making sure no one ever felt unsupported in sleep. After intensive study and qualifications, she started up business in 2021. 

See Jade’s website for more details, and have a look at her courses. Also have a look at her Instagram.

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